Talking to oneself is something people do to hear out their own ideas. Most people learn to internalize this dialogue and shield its message from those watching. But in so doing, they short-circuit a channel in the brain for connecting emotionally to your own ideas. The enthusiasm of body, face, and mannerisms is self-contagious. When we actually talk to ourselves in excited tone and cannot contain the physical energy boiling within, we allow our bodies to tune in to our emotional state, fueling a positive-feedback loop that again encourages the message's emotional content. When we only speak with internal dialogue, this channel cannot be used, and the message is stripped somewhat of its emotional content.
I believe people should feel comfortable expressing their energies physically. We are taught from a young age to sit still and absorb information like a sponge, but that's not how our bodies are designed. If someone is telling you a complicated mathematical concept, feel free to visualize it with your hands. If someone is excitedly telling you about their day, reflect their enthusiasm back with some fist pumps into the air. Walk around the house while on the phone. Fidget in your seat at a lecture, or just get up and do something in the back of the room. Share your whole self with others during conversation, not just your eyes, ears, and mouth.
Amen brother! (knee slap)
ReplyDeleteThe more exitment shown and expressed to others, the more allowing comes from both ends. The speaker gets to fully express his or her exitment thus expressing his inner emotions, while the other gets to soak in their exitment, thus furthering encouraging the other to express themselves fully. That is somthing that i feel is often missing in disfunctional relationships, families and in the world if you will, is the LACK of encouragment given to others to help encourage and embrace others becoming the FULLEST expression of themselves as they can be. Encourage exitment, and it will blossom!
This got me to think about being with others who are needing to express sadness, anger and jelousy, and how to serve others when these emotions are present and need to flow through. By NOT encouraging them we are in a way telling the other to deny those feelings and by encouraging them are we feeding into them, thus causing them to become attatched to these emotions? If we feed into these emotions (becoming sympathetic) it only furthers their growth, but by being a witness (giving empathy) to these emotions for the other person this allows the other person to let those "negative" emotions pass so that they can move forward and flow through lifes waves of emotional tides. Giving the other person a feeling of tender heartedness so that they feel that its OKAY to feel that way, and encouraging them to talk, cry, or move in a way that allows it to pass serves not only them but also you!
hm- thankyou for the thoughts and the bounce board for me to express my own